This blog post was SO good. About asking the Lord to help you see your child the way He sees them, past all their behaviors, to who they truly are ( http://everybitterthingissweet.com/2012/02/taking-her-from-the-streets/).
Love this quote,
"Put Feelings on a back-burner. This is not the time for Feelings. Live a material life instead: wake, dress, eat, walk. Let your hands and words mother the new child, don't pause to look back, to reflect, or to experience emotions. "Shut up, Emotions," you'll say. "I'll check back with you in six months to see if you've pulled yourselves together. But no whining meanwhile!"
"Let yourself off the hook. This is not your fault. You’ve done a grand thing—you’ve gone out into the world in search of a child and, despite every obstacle over tens of thousands of miles, you’ve brought the child home. It's all going to work out in time. Meanwhile, you’re exhausted. This is all really hard. If it were easy, everyone would do it. You’re doing fine. Just rest up, find something to laugh about, and give Feelings the month off."
"Sin is what happens when our love gets disordered. And it’s never worth disordering the heart to get a right-ordered house.
How is my love ordered? Towards a Better Homes and Gardens House? Or a better, holy, godly heart?
A right-ordered house isn’t virtuous like a right-ordered heart.
It’s true: I could close my eyes to the magma of mess. But the thing is: Love isn’t blind. Love is the holy sight.
Love has the long, real sight, that sees what won’t burn up. Love’s priorities are things unseen. " Ann Voscamp